One of my favorite unresolved arguments is whether or not parents should take responsibilty for their children’s upbringing. I fully agree that we all make our own decisions and cannot blame anyone for that which we do by choice.
But what about our mental and emotional health? I personally struggle with anxiety and depression. Did I choose to be this way (I think not)? Maybe it was years of being beaten and screamed at and told constantly that my thoughts have no value. My uncle says no (he’s a basket case too but he won’t admit it), he says I can blame no one for the way I am and I should just know how to live in stability and peace. I realize we all react to situations differently but how do you know peace until its shown to you?
The next question I have is WHY is everyone so concerned about raising their kids right if the kid is gonna be told that, “You can’t blame your parents for anything when they grow up”?!
If that’s the case lets just kick em out at 5 years old to fend for themselves. I mean they are supposed to just figure it all out themselves right?Stop the cycle people. If your parents are crap blame them for being crap, forgive them then get as far away as possible so you don’t get trapped into being just like them.